What are you eating, what is eating you...how to come out (share) if you should at all12:26:00 PM
Sometimes it's easier to post what we are eating than it is to post what's eating us...a laugh is better than a cry we say...in my latest blog post (link on bio) I talk about coming out (sharing) about everyday life issues (and/or #mentalhealth issues), should we or shouldn't we...and if we should, how should we do it? 📷 brunch - potatoes, mushroom, baked beans #vegetarian #whatvegetarianseat #vegetarianliving #instafood #BBphoto #BlackberryClassic #nofilter #mentalhealth #mentalhealthmatters #mentalwellness #MentalHealthWithoutBorders #mymindmyfunk #mentalhealthblogger #wellness #wellnessblogger
Happy Saturday beautiful people,I hope the weekend is coming along real well. I doing a marathon Saturday catch up of work (wishing it was a TV series or something), trying to finish up on April backlog caused by recent trip to Ireland (a blog post of that trip is on this to-do list i am catching up on so bear with me Sweetlings).
Coming out (in all interpretations of those words) is amazing, liberating to some, but do you have the tools+skills to deal? #mentalhealth— Sitawa Wafula (@SitawaWafula) May 1, 2016
Over the past week, I have seen enough instances of people (including some local, continental and international celebs) opening up on some personal things. From my personal experience of constantly sharing my journey as a rape survivor living with a dual diagnosis of epilepsy and bipolar, I know the wonders sharing does. But the type of sharing i have been seeing has left me wondering, is this how and what we should be sharing and with all these people especially when the ink of the pain is yet to dry? To me, the bigger picture of sharing should be a desire to heal or be at peace with ourselves first and foremost (and then for others as a by product). Unfortunately i see people wheeeew let me let it be.
1. What's eating you?
So if you have identified you have an eating disorder or drinking problem or procrastination issue or have been diagnosed with depression or bipolar or whatever else, your first step, even before we start thinking of whether to share or not, or what will people say or do or feel if they knew is dealing with it on a personal level.
2. What's in your tool box
Where do you turn when it goes south? What's your release? Social media, friends, your God?do you let it implode or explode? #mentalhealth
Whether you readily accept the issue or not, (some people go through a long period of denial, others are quick to drown in the issue) you should check if you have the necessary tools and skills to cop with the issue
If we have the necessary tool and skills, then we will be able to work on ourselves first before we run around announcing to everyone who has an ear or any platform we have access toA whole bunch of us have no releases...we let it eat us up or let it out on everyone #mentalhealth— Sitawa Wafula (@SitawaWafula) May 1, 2016
We lack tools and skills to deal w/ everyday life and don't have support systems so we rely on the court of public opinion #mentalhealth
3. What if my tools require outside help?
Some aspects of our tool boxes require sharing and releasing what we are going through. But before we release, we need to check the following;
- Why do you want to share?
Is it to let it go and start your healing journey, or to shame whoever or whatever brought this thing to you, is to for pity or attention seeking?- What, to whom and how much do you share?
A lot of people want to share to let it go but we fail in this part, we run to social media and tell all our business and instead of getting better, we get worse. You should look for mature people and if you can professionals to do the initial releasing to. Journaling is also a good place to start your release and help clear your mind better than a twitter rant.
- Whats the worst (best) that would happenSometimes it's easier to post what we are eating than it is to post what's eating us...a laugh is better than a cry we say #mentalhealth
Sometimes we may really really want to share/release but are scared of how we will look or what the person even if a professional will think about us. If your motives are right, and you have thought through the what, to whom and how much to share, do not let fear be the barrier between your peace of mind and rest (assuming thats your end goal).
Do not mask it and think a laugh is better than a cry because sometimes the cry is actually our saving grace.
If you or someone you know need to release some things, email me on firstname.lastname@example.org
Sending love and light,